When facing a sick friend, it is hard to care or even don’t want to bother about his/her imperfections. Even how you grievance against him/her before, you will still put everything aside and pray for him/her.
I went to hospital with my boyfriend to visit his friend last night. She is suffering from MS (Multiple Sclerosis). She has been on a wheelchair for one week that she couldn’t feel one of her legs and couldn’t drive but still went to work. And finally, she went into the emergency room the night before and did a body check.
She was a manager of my boyfriend when they were still working for the same company. We used to hang out a lot. The more we hung out, the more I observed about her. She is a very dominant girl that she loves to be the center of the group. She always wants every of her friends to follow what she says. If you don’t follow what she says, she will be so upset or mad. She likes to control and she is spoiled by her parents. My boyfriend and I started not to hang out with her too much and keep a little bit of distance, because we don’t want to hate her; we don’t want to lose a friend but gain an enemy.
Last night, when we were at the hospital, she was sleeping. Looking at her, I felt sad. She couldn’t feel her leg for a week already, but still went to work. Can I say she is strong or she just wants everyone to feel sad and pity on her? Last night, standing at the end of her bed… I chose to believe the first one, she is strong… she is a tough girl.
I start thinking: where is all the criticism I had about her before? She loves to be the center of the group because she is tough? She wants every of her friends to follow what she says because she is tough? She likes to control because she is tough? My every negative comment on her turned into positive in one night.
Why we have to hate people and avoid or keep distance with them? And until one day, when we found that we may be going to lose them, then turned everything into their merit. Isn’t it too late? Why can’t we just accept who they are at the first place and cherish every time we’re together?
Now, I pray for the girl I didn’t like before. I start to admire her and to have a new thought about her. I hope she will be fine and live happily.
